Bernadine Monica Frazer (nee Grant)
This collection of stories and images is dedicated to my much loved brother, Grant, and to my ‘grandma’, Bernie.
It is intended as a gift to all of my family, present and future.
To remember is to include them in our daily lives, in our conversations, in our celebrations, in our decision-making, and in our resources for living.
To remember is to refuse to allow our loved one's memory to go by unnoticed.
Remembering may involve keeping a person's voice alive through repeating their words in relation to new developments in life.
It may involve consulting the deceased's opinion as a resource for dealing with a new challenge.
It may involve keeping a place in family gatherings or rituals for someone who is no longer alive.
It may involve telling young children stories about a dead grandparent's life.
It may involve committing oneself to living for some value or purpose that a dead loved one held dear.
Lorraine Hedtke and John Winslade Re-Membering Lives: Conversations with the Dying and the Bereaved. Baywood Publishing,(2004) p.10
Acknowledgements
Jane Frazer Cosgrove June 2018
This work would not have been possible without the encouragement and the ongoing technical assistance that was given to me by my husband Rob, and by my sons John, Christopher, and Luke. I was further sustained in what revealed itself to be a marathon project, by receiving warm support and helpful contributions from my siblings Peter, Juliet and Annabel. My loving thanks to you all.
I am deeply grateful for the encouragement that I have received from my friends. It has been particularly treasured when it came from friends who who have very little interest in family history! That said, I was often motivated to ‘hang in there’ by the fact that I had been a witness to the discipline and persistence that was shown by of three of my closest friends, Kathleen, Patricia, and Jan, as they each researched, and then recorded their family stories. Their example and encouragement has been invaluable.
I would like to express my sincere gratitude to several people who contributed in different ways to my research. They were all most generous with their time and knowledge, and each of them took me a few steps further on my journey.
Research assistance for the FRAZER/Marks section: Bryan Fraser and Shirley Picker.
Rhonda Brownlow of the Crookwell & District Historical Society, NSW.
Gillian Drew from the Goulburn Mulwaree Library, NSW.
Research assistance for the GRANT/Holt/Gorman/Doyle section: Robyn Atherton.
Jo, (Client Services Librarian) from Ipswich Libraries, Qld.
Rowie Griffiths of the Young & District Family History Group Inc. NSW.
Ken Pearsall and Lorraine Brown of Harden-Murrumburrah Historical Society, NSW.
Research assistance for the PETERS section: Thelma Mckay.
Stephany Fehre and Kath Lonergan of the Hobart Town (1804) First Settlers Association. Tas.
Rose Wade from the Tasmanian Information and Research Service - LINC Tasmania
Andrea Marks, Carol Brill and Robyn Barratt of the Brighton Heritage Association Inc. Tas.
Rosie Severs from the Tasmanian Museum and Art Gallery's historic Narryna Heritage Museum.
Stephanie Burbury of the Oatlands District Historical Society, Tas.
I also wish to acknowledge that I am deeply indebted to Thelma Mckay, Alison Alexander, Irene Shaffer, and Marjorie Tipping. As historians and researchers they have each published extensively on the early years of the European settlement of Van Dieman's Land.
